People say a lot of things. What works for one person may not work for another. Before taking anyone's advice, seek professional counsel. Don’t listen to your friends, family, things you read on the internet, things you see on tv, or hear on the radio. There are so many “gurus” out there these days, it’s difficult to know what will work for you. Check in with yourself everyday. Be present in the moment. Be aware of your words and actions. Good or bad, your words and actions have consequences. You’ll want to focus on the good consequences.
- Time: Take your time. There’s no rush. Everyone heals in their own time. We all feel the pressure of time when you can't put a time on healing. It doesn’t matter what others think about how long or short someone needs to heal. Don’t put a time limit on yourself. Just take one day at a time. Whether you're dealing with heartache, weight loss/gain, body ache, mind ache or soul ache, it is up to the unique individual, that we all are.
- Connection: Establishing a connection to yourself is the first step to moving forward towards better relationships with others. When you connect to yourself, it allows you to have compassion for yourself. Pay close attention to your body, your thoughts and your feelings, they will tell you where the problem areas are.
- Practice Self-Compassion: the definition of self-compassion is sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of one’s self. This exercise will teach you to express yourself and when that happens, you learn to deal with your emotions in a healthier, more compassionate manner. In turn, your compassion will resonate outwardly; like the ripple effect.
- Fluidity and liquidity: Release and Replenish. Get to the flow state. Water coming in, water going out. Release, cry, sweat, pee. Replenish, hydrate and rehydrate. Take a salt or spiritual bath or shower.
- Practice Self Expression: Find something that you enjoy doing or try new things until you find something that you like. This does not mean neglecting your other responsibilities, it’s in addition to. It’s usually the thing you do that hooks you in and you just want to do more of it.
- Journaling or voice recording are great ways to get those pent up thoughts out of your head.
- Try not to be too hard on yourself.
- Spend some time with yourself. Even a few minutes a day will do wonders.
- Spend time in nature as often as you can.
- Block out the chatter and listen to your own self. Your body will give you signs as to what needs attention. Pay attention to your emotions. Allow time to feel them, acknowledge them but don't dwell on them too long. Enjoy the good ones for as long as you like but give the bad emotions a time limit. An overstayed bad emotion becomes an annoying house guest that you can't get rid of.
- Acceptance: Accept your strengths and weaknesses. Make a list if you feel like it will help. Address each and give it its due diligence.
- Key Components: Mental, physical and spiritual health is detrimental to your well being. Know that you can depend on yourself.
- Changing your patterns will change your habits and in time, change your life. Life is a work in progress.
I do not claim, professionally or privately, to be an expert or an authority, by any means, of anything in particular. I am only an expert of my own self.
The methods described here are the result of determination and hard work to understand myself on a deeper level. Take this information however you want. You are responsible for your own interpretation of these words.
Always seek professional help when needed.